Ally Ally Oxen Free | All That Seems Random Fridays #27

Wow, it’s Friday again which means it’s time for All That Seems Random Fridays, where we share how aware (or not) we are of the events, people and opportunities the universe has presented to us based on our focus and desires.

Because we need to CELEBRATE them.

And this week… I talk about things that HAD to be done.

I HAD to do a thing because I HAD TO.

Not for reasons, like the one where I believed doing it would create a windfall of overnight online success and riches and certainly not for the reason of getting my elusive, some say none existent Forty Acres+Mule promised me and my people waaaaaaaaaay back.

Nope, what I HAD to do had nary a thing to do with those reasons. At least they weren’t the main all intents and purposes, reason.

Am I’m glad I did what I HAD to do? YES. Would I do it again? YES. Am I going to tell you what I HAD to do without you having to ask? YES.

I HAD to do a six month long experiment in blogging, without following any proven success plan or any plan other than before midnight on each Friday starting May 22, 2009 and for 26 consecutive weeks after that date, write and press publish on a blog post.

I HAD to build consistency muscle.

Because of the long term goal I have. Because of the inconsistency muscle I’d strengthened by acting inconsistently.

I mean would you do consistent business with a company, by company I mean me, who’s only level of consistency was in how inconsistent they happened to be?

I figured it would take me 6 months to create the kind of consistency I wanted. Going week after excruciating week. Pushing through the – noone gives a crap, what if I’m talking into a black hole about and to myself (which turned out to not be so bad, not always the most gratifying but not bad.) Feeling like I was a failure because only one or two people commented regularly. Thinking I wouldn’t have anything to say.

I honestly felt it would be excruciating when I started. And who am I fooling, I’ve had to practice shutting up since I learned how to talk – me, not have something to say… phshaw…now if I’d said not always having something valuable to say…Anyway…

Now that the consistency muscle has been built, it’s time to move on and step out of what started to look like a black hole of narcissism where all I ever talked about was me, and my and mine and begin talking to you about you and yours.

It’s time to focus more on the small steps my folks (southern speak for my kinsmen and kinswomen) can take to build the skills to start, run and potentially sell an online business, without assuming you have knowledge related to technology or business.

I don’t assuming for both our sakes. I’ll be learning right along side you. And also hopefully sharing without making either of us feel as though we need to know everything, right now, this minute to make an online business a reality.

Plus if I can help you avoid experiencing the following phenomena:

Purchase Product A, giddy, exited by it’s promises of easy to put into practice, step-by-step online wealth generating actions. Read it. Try to implement it. Fail.

Purchase Product B, giddy because it’s supposed to help you implement the thing you failed to implement in Product A. And you just absolutely know that if you knew how to implement that one thing it would change everything. Read it. Implement a few parts. Quit in frustration because it doesn’t actually tell you how to implement that one part in Product A you thought it was going to tell you how to implement.

Purchase Product C. Read it. Implement a few more parts and do it a little better than before. See tiny shoots of success. Get totally excited and run to tell your friends and family. Now because they are watching, the laws of quantum physics take over and the shoots of success shrivel up and die. You, feeling dejected because crap, the shoots didn’t grow AND THEY WERE DEFINITELY SUPPOSED TO GROW, start beating yourself up for attracting the law of quantum physics.

Then because you’re beating yourself up and you want to stop doing that you purchase Product D because it will teach you how to stop beating yourself up and to use the quantum physics you keep attracting, to your benefit, so what you focus on grows. Read it. Drop it because it’s a hot potato with too much positive muckity muck and you want to punch yourself in the face, which totally counters the very reason you talked yourself into purchasing Product D in the first place. You also realize you’d pretty much punch anyone else in the face who sounded, felt, acted that freakin’ positive all the freakin’ time.

And you look so nice.

Eventually, run out of money. Move in with your parents. Borrow money from your grandmother and figure out that consistent action yielding peanuts beats big action with a one-time yield. Yes, the one-time yield feels good sooner but the peanut yield feels good longer. And longer is better. Guaranteed. If you like longer.

In order to pay back your grandmother and move out of your parents house you try to work one, two, ten of the plans you purchased, all at once and become overwhelmed with the sheer volume of conflicting information and actions you’re supposed to take. And now nothing feels good.

And you still don’t know how to put up a website, even after paying that monthly fee to your web host company and renewing your domain name again.

*Sigh*

Ally, Ally Oxen Free.

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