Imagine a powerful, yet simple system to change your life.

Imagine putting your THRiViNG! Life at the top your list

without putting your friends and families THRiViNG! Life at the bottom.

Now that’s a new perspective isn’t it?

The biggest issue though is defining that life and then finding a path to consciously follow for it’s achievement.

Does it depend on other people to be or act a certain way?

Does it require other people to change and respond to you the way you believe they need to respond to you?

Do you catch yourself saying things like:

- if only he would__________, so then I could ___________?

- when will she __________, so I can ____________?

- they didn’t even __________, so how can I ______________?

Maybe , you find fleeting, short-lived external happiness by purchasing new flashy, fancy baubles and gadgets, with cool extras.

Maybe what makes you happy is other people anticipating your needs, providing you with extra cherries on your banana split and doing things for you.

However, when you consider internal happiness,the kind you carry with you everywhere you go and into everything you do, no matter what the people around you are doing, what is that for you?

Do you have the kind of happiness you find when you look in the mirror and accept yourself for who you’ve been, who you are now and who you will become?

Maybe you don’t believe you deserve happiness? Why not? Who told you that lie? Everyone deserves happiness.

You deserve the kind of happiness where your family and friends believe you’ve lost your mind because you no longer need to cater to the supposed tos, always beens and every body’s doing it, buying it, saying it, anymore.

Only you have the power to define that kind of happiness for yourself.

When you live your life based on the definitions every one else gives you for what it means to be happy, you are bound to end up miserable.

You can end up broke and pessimistic or rich and pessimistic.

You can have outrageous fancy baubles or no fancy baubles at all.

However, until you take control and define what gives you internal happiness, a life you love, isn’t possible.

If you’ve been  living your life to please the people around you, it’s time for you to take control.

If the life you are living has become unpleasant to you, it’s time for you to take control.

If you’re ready to start living a life you love, instead of the life your parents, spouse, friends or children want you to live, it’s time for you to take control.

It’s time to define what makes you happy and end the “Happiness Codependency” you’re leaning on.

When you begin ending it for yourself, it also begins ending for the people around you.

Initially they may not like it. Especially when they feel that change is unnecessary and want to blame you for it. You may even here  if only you’d go back to how you were before, I’d be okay.

Let me tell you, they won’t be okay. You will always be implemented by proximity in their lack of or ability to have happiness.

Not a good place to be, for you or for them.

What will also happen, is they will no longer have the power to interfere with your happiness. They will no longer be called on to try and make you happy.  Or guess what will and won’t make you happy. Because it’s no longer up to them.

You aren’t some product that gets out stains really well, you are you, with your own desires, hopes, dreams, goals and aspirations.

Anyone telling you, you should do something else, doesn’t have a clue.

Am I suggesting you shouldn’t listen to their experience? Absolutely not. If they can speak of and have examined their experience thoroughly enough to guide you, by all means listen.

You are still the only one who can decide what your happiness looks like and whether their guidance might work for you and who you are.

Changing anything about your life is going to push your buttons, stretch you beyond what you think you can do, be or have. It’s going to cause you to question the very essence of the things you thought were solid beliefs.

So why bother?

Why do anything differently now, than what you’ve been doing?

Why fill your head and heart with unrealistic ideas about a THRiViNG! Life, when leaving well enough alone is so easy?

Why put yourself into new and uncomfortable situations? Why challenge yourself? Why stretch the comfort zone in which you reside?

I’ll tell you why, because that is what you want.

Why does a baby decide she wants to walk and talk? Why does a toddler ask 10,000 questions with each in take of breath? Why did you wake up this morning?

Why – because you are still curious. You still have something to offer and something to give.

You still want to experience what life has to offer, good and bad, with a little less ugly.

You still believe you have something to share with the world only you’ve forgotten what it is.

Every day you breathe, you are given the choice to see your life from a different perspective.

Every. Single. Day.

So if you’re at the point in your life where you really are sick and tired of being sick and tired…

If you are fed up to here with feeling like you have absolutely no control and no say in how you express your creativity, your curiosity, your joy and your life energy…

If you feel the tiny spark still burning inside you to do, be and achieve…

You have your reason why.

You just need a map now to get where you want to go. A map that will keep you on course and help you if you get lost.

You might be wondering where you get this map from. Do you get it in college, after you get married, when you have children?

You get to design your own map, with your THRiViNG! Life as the unique topography.

How do you create your map?

It’s a simple, yet powerful process. And few choose to do it because it does require commitment. Not a half formed, sometimes commitment, either.

Your terrain may be dangerous to navigate on your own.

You may need the help of professional guides.

You may stumble and fall. You may face mountains. There will be rivers and caves and monsters.

The only promise is that the journey will make you stronger, more aware, more powerful.

This is not for the faint of heart or the weak in spirit.

Do you still want to begin your journey?